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Attachment Styles in Relationships

Understand the patterns behind who you choose, how you connect, and why the same dynamics keep repeating.

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Start by discovering your attachment style in under 5 minutes.

Why Your Attachment Style Matters in Love

Your attachment style shapes how you communicate, handle conflict, choose partners, and respond when things feel uncertain.

If you’ve ever asked yourself:

  • “Why do I keep attracting emotionally unavailable people?”
  • “Why do I panic when my partner pulls away?”
  • “Why do I shut down when things get intense?”

…you’re in the right place. This hub brings together our guides on attachment styles in dating, long-term relationships, and breakups, so you can understand your patterns and start changing them.

Start With These Relationship Guides

Why Do I Attract Avoidant Partners?

Learn why anxious and avoidant people are so often drawn to each other, and how to break the cycle of chasing emotionally distant partners.

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The Anxious–Avoidant Trap Explained

A deep dive into the push–pull dynamic where one partner pursues closeness and the other pulls away.

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Avoidant Partner Pulling Away — What to Do

What’s really happening when an avoidant partner withdraws, and how to respond without abandoning yourself.

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Dating & New Relationships

Conflict & Distance

  • The Anxious–Avoidant Trap
  • Avoidant Partner Pulling Away
  • Attachment Styles in Conflict
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Breakups & Letting Go

  • Attachment Styles During Breakups
  • Do Avoidants Miss You?
  • How Attachment Affects Moving On

How Attachment Styles Shape Your Relationship Patterns

Attachment styles influence:

  • How safe you feel in closeness
  • How you react when someone needs space
  • What kind of partners you’re drawn to
  • How you interpret mixed signals

Anxious attachment often leads to pursuing and overthinking.
Avoidant attachment often leads to withdrawing and shutting down.
Fearful-avoidant attachment can swing between the two.

The good news: attachment patterns are not life sentences. With awareness and practice, you can move toward more secure, steady relationships.

Not Sure Where You Fit?

Understanding your attachment style is the first step to changing your relationship patterns.

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Get a personalized breakdown of your primary attachment style and what it means for your relationships.

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